Friday, October 30, 2009

Becoming The People We Want To Be

A friend of Kathy's recently gave her a transcription of a talk that was delivered by Caroline Myss in 1994, entitled The Courage to Heal. After Kathy shared it with me, I have been and living with (and attempting to live) what I consider to be its four key paragraphs. For this, my first blog, I would like to share these words with you:
Why are we so afraid to heal? I believe it is because we really know that for every insight we get, for every thing we can forgive and finally let go of, our life moves a little faster, and we are terrified of the speed with which we can move. We're so afraid of our abilities we try to slow down.

We ask for help, but we are afraid of the very guidance we are invoking, because it brings change and it makes us make choices. We are afraid to make the changes we're praying for.

We're praying for enlightenment without light. We want to be powerful without power. So we get ourselves stuck between two orbits, the people we are and the people we want to be.

It's incredibly important to look at why we are so afraid of becoming what we want to be, and what we could be like if we got there. I believe the greatest thing we can give this planet is to be a fully courageous person who can make the choices we need to make in our own life.
We all know what it's like to be stuck. We even go so far as to organize ourselves around our "stuckness."

Try this, in your daily life... Identify one small area in which you seem stuck. Make it something simple and benign: cleaning out a closet or getting something done that has been moldering on your mental "to do" list for far too long. Make a plan to get the thing done, remembering (as Kathy always likes to remind me) that it is a technical problem, not an emotional one. Notice how you feel as you approach this task, note how you feel while you are doing it, and then how it feels after the task is completed. Later on, when you are ready to do so, you can use this experience as a template for approaching the BIG AREAS in which you are stuck.

And while you're at it, go ahead and identify the big areas, and acknowledge how you may have structured a life around these items. Be forgiving and loving with yourself. You're only human, and as our friend Jane likes to say, you are a work in progress. Assure yourself that someday, when the season is right, you will move these items out of the way as well. And if fear arises at the mere thought of moving through places where you are stuck, investigate this feeling carefully. It may actually be the excitement of looking forward to being the person you've always wanted to be.



  1. That really resonated with me as yesterday I finally did one little task that I had been delaying for days - and now for the other 10,946!